Winter has come and I can’t help but notice a trend that repeats every year. During the colder months, many young people begin passionately looking for “the one.” There appears to be the hope among single individuals that it is important to find someone to spend the cold, depressing winter months with while dealing with loneliness.
A study advised that being physically cold leads to a pining for psychological heat. Participants were shown a romantic film in a cold setting. The hotter participators became, the less forsaken they felt. As a consultant, I notice many times that my clients enter relationships in November or December under fake hope, only to have the relationship end as fast as the spring warmth hits the air.
Not only do I see this trend in my counseling sessions, I also see it in my circle of friends. As an example, I just went to the hair dressing salon and my stylist’s phone rang many times while I was sitting in her chair. With a deep sigh, she announced that she had been getting phone calls from exes or past flings for a few weeks. She swiftly decided that these were just men looking for somebody to remedy their solitude and to keep them warm on these cold nights.
Studies are telling use we are more prone to loneliness and depression when we are cold. It appears to follow that it might be wise to think a touch more prior to making choices about entering into a relationship when we are cold. Put simply, when you are cold, perhaps you shouldn’t return home with that fellow from the bar or adhere to the casual relationship with the guy you “kinda” like but do not really see a future with.
As we enter the New Year, resolve to try to make better decisions this winter so you are not spending spring getting over a winter fling.
Eboni Harris, an approved professional counselor intern at Ann’s Place in the Woodlands, Texas, elaborates on how important it is to be aware of dealing with loneliness as well as loneliness and depression during the months of winter.