When attempting to hook up, the initial thing a guy should do is clearly to evaluate the market. If you’re an expert at approaching girls you can approach anybody you desire but for the rest of us, we have to up our chances a little by assessing the available resources.
Approximately 90 % of the distinction between someone that’s really great with women and someone who’s mediocre with girls is the capacity to detect a woman that is open to approach. This appears unrealistic, however rationally it makes sense. Your probabilities of success go way down if you stroll into a bar and go up to any woman without understanding what signs to look for.
You have to know how you can spot that woman that’s currently in this receptive state, so you could walk up and be “that man.” Don’t buy in to the misconception that women do not wish to be approached. Women desire to be approached and picked up equally as much as guys wish to hook up.
Many times, men and women don’t hook up because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn’t happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse…becomes bitchy to the guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one’s approaching them. There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or open to approach.
Which woman is open to approach? Exactly what to look for:
The initial indicator is a woman looking down frequently. When a girl is in a bar environment and looking down, she’s accessing her emotional mind.
If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up once more, she’s stating: “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.” And if she tilts her head down as well, she’s physically dropping herself a little lower and showing submission. Girls that will be open to approach ought to automatically take the submissive position as a woman. That’s one quality which shows you’ll be effective with her.
Another quality is that she’s actively seeking to make eye contact. This is critical. A girl that is involved with a person specifically and not looking away is not going to be as open to pick up. So rather, if you see a girl that is in a conversation but continuously looking about and attempting to make eye contact with various other people, this is most likely an excellent opportunity for you and that’s a woman you can walk up to and begin building rapport.
Other qualities are disclosed in the way they’re standing and how they’re dressed. Let’s say she’s standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It’s less likely that a girl standing like this is going to be readily available for you to stroll up and control. That’s due to the fact that she’s standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she’ll probably be a great deal more insusceptible. As an alternative, you want to look for a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a bit.
Another thing is the way she’s dressed. If she’s dressed in a way that’s super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn’t the kind of girl you can walk up to and easily start a conversation. These kinds of women are looking for attention – not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who’s in between “I don’t care” and “Stare at my tits, bitch!” Somewhere between wearing sweatpants to done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a low-cut shirt.
A great deal of girls that are on vacation fall in to this category. They’ll normally come in open-minded, and start looking around attempting to make connections.
That’s exactly what to look for and exactly how you identify her to begin with. If you observe a few of these hints, observe her for a second and if you believe that she is open to approach then continue. If not, continue anyway, just to see what happens. You need the practice …