If you are a westerner having a relationship with a Filipina, you might want to know how do Philippine romantic relationships differ from Western cultures, especially if you are serious with the girl and want your relationship to last.
Romantic relationships in the Philippines have greatly evolved with the emergence of modern technology, specifically the internet. The availability and abundance of online dating sites and social networking sites make it easier for “people to find people”, for foreigners to hook up with Filipinas, as well as for Filipinas to look for their lifelong partners.
Western influences, too, are now becoming apparent in the way Filipinas dress, look, act, and yes, even handle relationships. Indeed, many Filipinas now sport chic blond hair, sculptured faces and mini skirts, and many speak English so comfortably you’d think they might as well have been born and bred in the United States.
But where romance is concerned, the Philippine dating culture is not entirely dead, thankfully. Many Filipino women still treasure and practice the values they have learned from generations past, such as the values of humility, loyalty, and respect, and these values would make Philippine romantic relationships differ from Western cultures.
Humility is maintaining a low profile. Being humble means not boasting or thinking highly of one’s self. It is not acting superior to others, but is not being inferior, either. In a relationship, humility is shown by being submissive to one’s partner, for as long as it is within reason, of course. The Filipino woman does not compete with her husband, but instead is supportive of him. In a typical Filipino family, the husband acts as the breadwinner, while the wife (whether she’s a career person herself or not) manages the home and takes care of the needs of the husband and the rest of the family.
Loyalty means being faithful. When a Filipino woman is loyal to her partner,she stands by him, through thick and thin, come rain or shine. A one-man-woman, she will not double-cross her partner, and many couples live together well into their golden years.
Respect means admiring a person deeply or thinking highly of another. Filipino women understand their roles in the home and respect their husbands’ as well. Perhaps it is but normal for any Filipina to be , but almost always, she respects his views and doesn’t question her partner’s decisions. Filipino women also respect their bodies, regarding them as something sacred. So if you’re thinking of taking a Filipina out to a date, don’t expect she’ll be sleeping with you when the night ends.
Having an understanding now of the values that make Filipino women stand out, you might want to work on these same values yourself. Remember that you cannot dance the tango by yourself. If you want your relationship with a Filipino woman to last a long time, if not a lifetime, you must learn to adapt to the Philippine culture, and the Filipino way of life.
One other thing you have to know, and this has nothing to do with any of the values mentioned, is that there is no divorce law in the Philippines. Marriages in the Philippines may only be annulled, or the couple may opt for legal separation, but even then the processes can be long, costly, and stressful. So unless you are very sure of the woman you want to marry, don’t proceed with the marriage ceremony. Not only will it dig holes in your pocket, it will also break your heart and the Filipina’s if you’re not in for the long haul to begin with.
All things considered, a long lasting relationship with a Filipina women is expected when you know how to play your cards right.