It’s hard enough meeting the parents of a woman you’re dating, so imagine how much harder it is if you’re dating someone whose cultural background is radically different from yours. This is the main problem faced by western men dating Filipina women. Even if you’ve been to the Philippines a few times, and even if you have several Filipino friends, you’re still not equipped with the right things to say to the parents of a Filipino woman you’re dating. What do you say to Filipino parents when you want to date their daughter? How would the subject even come up?
The good news is that there are two magic lines that can help you make a great impression right from the start. Here they are:
Magic Line #1 – “When I got to know her, it was obvious to me that she came from a good, respectable family. That’s why I wanted to meet you.”
This may sound like a strange thing to say at first, but Filipinos are very family-oriented. Apart from caring about traditional family values, they also care about how their family is perceived. Filipino parents would appreciate hearing that the good character of their daughter reflects their own good qualities as parents.
Magic Line #2 – “She’s very smart, understanding, and kind. I also admire how much she loves and respects you both – I hope I can do the same.”
It’s a common mistake to try and impress Filipino parents with your own list of achievements. But what most western men don’t know is that humility is important to Filipinos. They play down their own achievements and good qualities. Bragging is frowned upon.
Instead of talking about yourself, praise their daughter. Note that you don’t have to use the exact words listed above. Any praise noting the character of the woman you’re dating will do. It’s also important to mention how she cares for her parents, and how you are willing to do the same. This will go a long way expressing to them that you are open to accepting them as part of your family should you decide to make a stronger commitment later on.
While these two magic lines won’t get you through the whole conversation, it’s a great way to start. Don’t be surprised that, as a result of saying these words, the family will welcome you with open arms and invite you to sit down with them on a spontaneous celebratory meal that marks the start of your courtship.