What Attracts A Filipina To A Foreigner?

These days it is not uncommon to find Filipina women in the arms of foreign men. But why the attraction between these two races? What attracts a Filipina to a foreigner?

There is the notion that Filipino women who go for foreign men are just after one thing – money. That’s largely debatable, of course. After all, not all foreigners are wealthy. True, the Philippines is still a developing nation, and the US is already a fully developed country, but it does not mean that all Filipinos are poor and all those living in the United States are rich.

Filipina Wedding
Filipina Wedding in the Philippines

Well, it may also be that one dollar can go a long way in the Philippines, but it’s an entirely different scenario back in the States, especially in the midst of recession. People are losing homes and jobs in the states, and yet there doesn’t seem to be a downtrend where romance between Fil-Ams is concerned. Moreover, in the US, spending a dollar is spending a fortune, which also goes to say that what appears to be loads of money in the Philippines isn’t all that much when spent in the US, so, really, it can’t be all because of money that Filipinas are attracted to foreigners.

So what attracts a Filipina to a foreigner?

There are many things that draw a Filipina to a foreigner, such as the need to try something different, for instance.

Long gone are the days when women would just content themselves with provincial life. It’s not that it’s a bad thing, of course. But there’s absolutely nothing wrong, either, with venturing out or tasting a different menu, so to speak. For a Filipina, it can be a thoroughly exciting experience to have a relationship with foreign men, with their free spirit, and amid cultural and religious differences. Dating a foreigner is not necessarily an upgrade in what one may be used to, but the many differences between them do give a relationship some spice.

Foreign men are also seen as one’s ticket to visit other countries outside the Philippines. True, it’s more fun in the Philippines, but for someone who has lived in the Philippines all her life, there is that longing to see the the United States with all its glamour and glory. Who can blame her, right? Think about Hollywood, designer clothes and bags, and world-class tourist spots, to name a few!

But everyone knows just how difficult (and expensive) it is to get a tourist or even a working VISA to the US. It’s been said, in fact, that if you are a professional who simply want to see the world, your chances are better if you simply look for an American fiance to get you out of the Philippines and bring you to the United States than apply for a tourist VISA. Then once your passport has been stamped, it will be loads easier to travel to other parts of the world. Having said this, it’s not at all surprising why Filipinas would be attracted to foreigners.

A Filipina may also be forced by a need to start anew, even if it meant being away from her family. A bad experience at home may have left her with no other recourse but to seek refuge or comfort in the arms of someone who is not at all Filipino. It does happen at times that it takes someone from a completely different background to appreciate you or make you realize what’s important to you. A complete change of environment and an entirely new set of friends may be good for a Filipina’s soul, in this case.

A Filipina who was once married to a Filipino may also be attracted to a foreigner so as not to make the same mistake. Surely, you have heard it said too often, been there, done that. Well, indeed, if she didn’t find true love with a Filipino, she might have better chances of finding true love with someone who’s not. Who could tell, right?

Why Marry A Filipina and Why Not?

Why marry a Filipina when you can get any girl to spend the rest of your life with? Why a Filipina of all races? Well, if what you want is someone with substance, then indeed, a Filipina makes a wise choice.

  • Filipino women value marriage. As many of them grew up under the care of both parents, they naturally expect their marriage to also last forever. So if you are a one-woman-man who believes in marriages that last a lifetime, a Filipina is the woman for you.
  • A Filipino woman is a great companion at home. Not only is she reliable when it comes to organizing things at home, but she can also be an excellent stress-reliever. She can make you feel better by whipping your favorite meal, brewing the perfect cup of coffee, massaging your stress points and entertaining you with funny stories. A Filipino woman is someone you really would like to come home to at the end of a stressful day.
  • Filipinas are known to be doting mothers. For a Filipina, children are a priority. She’s willing to go through lengths and widths to be sure that her children are safe, healthy, well-provided for and happy. She takes care of their needs from sunup to sundown. With her untiring love and support, she does deserve to be called a “superwoman”.

On the other hand, there are also reasons why you should not marry a Filipina:

  • If you think that a Filipina will be at your every beck and call, don’t marry one. Filipina women are loving people, yes, but don’t expect them to be your slave. They may want to do things out of love, but don’t abuse their generosity.
  • Don’t marry a Filipina, either, if you only intend to keep her in the house and not allow her to socialize or do anything else than taking care of you. Keep in mind, Filipino women are smart and sociable people. They may naturally want to do something productive, something that will enhance their skills and creativity, something that will develop them as a person. Don’t worry, allowing a Filipina to do what she wants and to explore the world does not mean that she will leave you. It will, in fact, only make her a better person, and as she becomes a better person, she also becomes a better wife and mother.
  • Don’t marry a Filipina for reasons other than love.

Most Filipino women grew up as Catholics who believe that marriage is a sacrament. As a sacrament, it needs to be respected and preserved. A marriage with a Filipina is bound to last forever when you marry her because of love and of course when you also do your share to make things work. It takes two to tango, as they say, and a Filipina makes a good partner when you dance the music of love.

When you begin to appreciate the desirable qualities of Filipino women, you will not wonder anymore why marry a Filipina when there are plenty of beautiful roses in the garden.

Why Date A Filipina?

Why date a Filipina? Well, why not? With all the great attributes (physical and otherwise) of Filipina women, you have to be out of your mind to refuse dating one. If you are dreaming of one day getting married to a Filipina, you need to start somewhere, and going out with her Is a good place to start (of course, that’s assuming that you have already been introduced, be it formally or informally).

Anyways, here are two reasons why dating a Filipina has to be done:

  • Dating provides an avenue for you to get to know each other better.  You must get to know a Filipina as well as possible because marriage, to most Filipino people, is a lifetime commitment. Going on dates with a girl allows you to know her deeper. By taking her to movies, restaurants, or fun places, you get the chance of seeing her lighter, less serious side. Catch her in her best times, or worst, in her guarded and unguarded moments. Dating a Filipina allows you to become more comfortable with each other, which so happens to be an important factor in any relationship.
  • Dating a Filipina does not require a huge expense. That’s the thing with Filipino women – they can be easily impressed with little but meaningful things. You don’t really have to spend a fortune just to take her to an expensive restaurant, because a time well spent together is far more important to a Filipina than the experience of fine dining.

Dos and Don’ts When Dating a Filipina

There are several dos and don’ts you need to keep in mind when taking a Filipina girl out on a date:

  • Don’t be late. You never let a girl, a Filipina especially, wait for you especially on your first date. Being late for an appointment never makes a good impression and you wouldn’t want the Filipina girl to think that you don’t think she’s important enough for you to drop everything else just to meet her on time. If for some reason you cannot come on time do have the sense of responsibility to call ahead of time and let her know.
  • Prepare well for your date. Look like you’ve really taken the time to make this day extra special for her. Don’t look like you’ve just gotten out of bed; rather, come with a fresh-looking face and  in a clean shirt. It might be a good idea to shave your face because it makes you look neat and Filipinas do love the light scent of after-shave.
  • Carry on a happy disposition. Set the mood of your date. Be in your best behavior and in a happy disposition. You want this to be a fun night, don’t you?
  • Do talk and listen. Don’t gab about yourself the whole night. Bragging is such as huge turn-off! Let the lady speak and listen to what she says. It can’t be boring because Filipinas are great conversationalists. They can carry on a conversation with men, even foreign men, pretty well.

Once you have agreed to the reasons why date a Filipino, make sure to keep these dos and don’ts in mind, too.

What to Say to Filipino Parents When You Want to Date Their Daughter

It’s hard enough meeting the parents of a woman you’re dating, so imagine how much harder it is if you’re dating someone whose cultural background is radically different from yours. This is the main problem faced by western men dating Filipina women. Even if you’ve been to the Philippines a few times, and even if you have several Filipino friends, you’re still not equipped with the right things to say to the parents of a Filipino woman you’re dating. What do you say to Filipino parents when you want to date their daughter? How would the subject even come up?

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Date a Filipina Girl

The good news is that there are two magic lines that can help you make a great impression right from the start. Here they are:

Magic Line #1 – “When I got to know her, it was obvious to me that she came from a good, respectable family. That’s why I wanted to meet you.”

This may sound like a strange thing to say at first, but Filipinos are very family-oriented. Apart from caring about traditional family values, they also care about how their family is perceived. Filipino parents would appreciate hearing that the good character of their daughter reflects their own good qualities as parents.

Magic Line #2 – “She’s very smart, understanding, and kind. I also admire how much she loves and respects you both – I hope I can do the same.”

It’s a common mistake to try and impress Filipino parents with your own list of achievements. But what most western men don’t know is that humility is important to Filipinos. They play down their own achievements and good qualities. Bragging is frowned upon.

Instead of talking about yourself, praise their daughter. Note that you don’t have to use the exact words listed above. Any praise noting the character of the woman you’re dating will do. It’s also important to mention how she cares for her parents, and how you are willing to do the same. This will go a long way expressing to them that you are open to accepting them as part of your family should you decide to make a stronger commitment later on.

While these two magic lines won’t get you through the whole conversation, it’s a great way to start. Don’t be surprised that, as a result of saying these words, the family will welcome you with open arms and invite you to sit down with them on a spontaneous celebratory meal that marks the start of your courtship.